Living Solo

There is not an iota of doubt about how living alone can improve your life. You see, when I decided to go the solo way, I did not think I would make it, having come from a large family and being a very social person. But a few days into living alone, no boyfriend, no keeping in constant contact with family … and I was hooked. I thought I would start to feel desperately lonely in a few months. They came and went, and then I thought it would happen in a few years… it didn’t. After many years of living with my parents, brothers and sisters, cousins and uncles and aunts who popped in every holiday, I never knew I was this ready to go do life alone.


Having experienced this first hand, I can say living alone for some time has many benefits. Here are a few of them:


You enjoy a good selfish time

Happy woman sitting in a sofa

There is good and bad selfishness. Good selfishness is when you value yourself too much such that you can actually love your own company. You love your time, you can leave the party without asking for permission, without worrying whether a roommate is coming along. Besides, when you wake up in the morning, you do not have to worry about who came and who did not come home last night. You will just dust up, do your thing and go to work.


If you can live with yourself, you can live with other people


What many people do not know is that if you cannot live with yourself, you cannot live with another person. Thus, I would recommend that you take some time off living with other people and try to see what you can do with yourself. Will you be disciplined enough to handle all that liberty? You should try and find out. If you do not love your own company and cannot stand to be with yourself for just a couple of days, most likely other people cannot stand your company. Everyone should take some time off living with others and see how well they can do living with themselves.


Think and act faster


If you have a business and you are the only one on the board, you can be able to make decisions faster, rather than when you have to consult widely. It is the same case when you are living alone. You think and act fast. There are not many people around for you to consult and so you can make even the most important decisions faster. Many times, decisions made alone hold more water than consulted decisions. By passing such decisions regarding your life, you can learn to trust yourself much more.


Emotional maturity is assured

 Woman looking outside sitting in the table with candle light

When anxiety strikes and you are living alone, when loneliness comes, you only have yourself to commiserate with. You cannot go calling your mom and dumping all of your emotional baggage on her. You will have to learn how to handle your emotional challenges alone. If you have been dumped, you will handle the heartbreak alone. This is how people grow.


You can create better friendships and relationship


Too much familiarity breeds contempt. Thus, when you live with friends and family every day, you may not respect them as much as you should. When you live alone, you learn to appreciate people much more. You will love staying prepared and expectant to meet family and friends in those extended family gatherings.